Listen Is listening something of the past in your relationship? Does it feel like your partner has shut down or quit listening to you?
Check out 6 sure-fire ways to reverse the trend:
If your partner doesn’t listen to you anymore you are not alone. If it feels like they zone out when you talk that is a monologue not a dialogue. Communication is a two-way street. In order for their to be true communication there needs to be a speaker and a listener. For instance, if your partner just nods and says “uh huh” but not much more, you can quickly get the feeling that you are talking to a wall.
However, if you want to reverse that trend and get your partner to finally start listening to you try these 6 sure-fire ways to reverse that trend.
#1 Listen to yourself. What is coming out of your mouth? Would YOU want to listen to you? Try this test.
Record yourself. Would you want to turn it off or hear more?
#2.Talk about everything you Love about your partner and everything they are doing RIGHT. They WANT you to be happy!
If making you happy starts to seem impossible, they may have just quit trying.
#3. Refuse to nag your partner. You are not their Mom or Dad. Ask them once and only once. In addition, you are not their boss. A partner is an equal. Unfortunately, when someone tells us what to do that is supposed to be our equal we typically no longer want to do it.
#4. Remove Unsolicited advice from your conversation. The fascinating ironic thing is–once you quit giving them advice, they will often start seeking out your advice.
#5. Acknowledge what your partner says BEFORE you add your thoughts. Just paraphrase back what you heard so they know you are interested and listening. Example: You: “Seriously? Your boss gave the promotion to Bill?” After that, you can give your thoughts.
#6. Reflect back. When you were dating your partner mostly likely hung on your every word.
What are you doing differently? Complaining non-stop? Making fun of them? Pointing out their weaknesses?
Take the Challenge! Do all 6 for two weeks and you might be surprised! Above all, try something new! If you keep doing what you are already doing you will keep getting the same results. Find a Therapist in your local area to speak with today.
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